Parenting can be such a roller coaster. One minute you are enjoying your kids having a great time and then the smallest thing triggers a fight and….great moment is over! When I find myself super frustrated with my kids and feeling like our family life is out of control is when I know it is time to read another parenting book. I need the best books on parenting on my nightstand.
Learning a new tip to try out in our house can sometimes help smooth out the latest difficult situation. Such as getting out the door on time, sibling rivalry or picky eating. I feel like when I am trying out a new tip from a book I have a glimmer of hope that things are going to get better. The great thing is that usually they do! Every new tip I put into my parenting toolbox is helping my family.
My Favorite Books about Parenting:
Love & Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay – This book absolutely changed our life when my kids were about 3 years old. I had twins and they could completely overwhelm me when we were trying to get out the door. I go into more detail about the techniques on my post, Are your kids stalling when you want to leave the house? Use this trick. The way to get a kid to do what you need them to do by offering them 2 choices (both options are something you can live with) is life changing!
Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish- I can totally tell when I am doing this in my kids life and when I am not. If my kids are fighting with each other I know it is time to take the advice of the book. Give them each individual praise for who they are as kids. When they each feel loved in their own way they don’t feel the need to tattle and fight as often. This is just one tip from the book and there is much more to gain when you read it, I share more at Siblings Fighting? 3 Tips to Help Them Get Along.
5 Love Languages of Children by Gary D Chapman- who hasn’t read this book on the adult level? If not, go read that one first because it can really help the love in your marriage. Then read this one. It has similar ideas with the Siblings Without Rivalry book. The idea is that if each kid has their love tank filled then life is much easier for everyone.
How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk by Elaine Mazlish- This book is about letting kids open up to you and spark conversation. I wanted to read this because my boys are super quiet. They don’t seem to want to open up and talk so I feel like I am just rattling off questions. This does not go over well with them and they clam up. I am learning tips like not to say “you played great”. Kids don’t really believe adults when they say great, fantastic, the best, etc. Really describe why you think they played great. A better example is “You really hustled for that ball in the last quarter, the offense couldn’t even get a shot.” They are then more likely to agree with you and say “Yea, they didn’t score so we won the game” instead of just a shrug.
On my “to read” in the near future list are:
Best Friends, Worst Enemies – by Michael Thompson and Cathe O’Neill-Grace
Positive Discipline A-Z – by Jane Nelseon Ed.D.
Queen Bees and Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman
Do you like to read parenting books? What books on parenting have been most helpful for you?
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