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We all want to teach our kids to be self sufficient and independent. To do this we have to take the time to invest in our kids. Small moments of patiently teaching, coaching and correcting all add up to making great children. Unfortunately sometimes I find myself doing the exact opposite. I am impatient and just do it myself instead of taking a moment to teach my kids.
I specifically had the opportunity this week to teach my boys how to unload the dishwasher. I know this is a task that they can handle at 10 years old but I have just been doing it myself because it is faster and I know where everything belongs. I had to stop myself and give myself a talking to and realize that this isn’t helping them to become the type of man that I want them to be.
This made me realize that there are a bunch of things that as moms we have to get out of the normal routine of just making it through the day and take some time to make the small investments into our kids futures.
3 Important Investments To Set Your Kids Up To Tackle Life
1.Chores – These are super difficult for me to be consistent about having my kids do regularly. One of the most important values I want to instill in my kids is the value of hard work. The pride in doing a good job and the independence that is built when kids have responsibilities and expectations to contribute to the family is invaluable.
My problem is the time it takes for me to keep up with a chore chart and the investment in being patient and not just “doing it myself”. I have to remind myself that this is an investment in their future to learn life skills like cleaning a floor, doing the dishes, how to properly vacuum, etc.
2. Communication – This is a skill that is important for everything in life. The ability to communicate your expectations and your approval and disappointment in healthy ways is taught by us at home. I was just reading that it takes 7 minutes of having a conversation with someone for it to get off of small talk and into a real meaningful conversations. This means we have to take the time to really keep the conversation going with our kids, keep asking questions and definitely mix up the questions into open-ended “What do you think about …blank…?” type of questions to get them thinking.
I am an introvert and can be super timid about asking for things that I need or speaking up for myself in work settings. I am working hard on teaching my kids to not be afraid. For example, one of my boys had something marked wrong on a test that we both knew was just something the teacher had overlooked. I made sure he took his test back in the next day and showed his teacher his answer and ask her about the points she had taken off in a respectful manner. I was always too shy to do something like that but I don’t want my kids to be afraid.
Other things I have my kids do to teach them to be independent:
- tell the waiter their order for themselves
- if they want to purchase something at a store and I have cash, I hand it to them and have them do the transaction with the sales clerk while I stand a little bit away so they have to do the talking.
These are things I have to take the time to be patient and know that I am investing in their future.
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Tabitha Blue says
This is such a great post! And I agree with each step… all areas we’re working on ourselves! We have a chart that are kids are using this summer and it’s been amazing the past couple of weeks, they make beds, clean up, get dressed… all before I even ask!
The communication is so good too, and we’re having them branch out of their comfort zones as well 😉
I was a very shy kid and didn’t feel brave enough to order for myself or introduce myself to new people when my parents were around. These are definitely things I want my own children to be able to do. I fully agree with your list!
Tamara Goyette says
Couldn’t agree more with all of these.
We are definitely committed to these three things, especially with our family growing. Great tips!
Kelsey @ Raising Little Wild Ones says
Great ideas! I love the comment about 7 minutes to move from small talk to real conversation! 7 minutes of conversation is a long time, especially with kids – but it’s so important to build a deeper relationship with them and it’s definitely worth the time investment!